If you find yourself falling for a woman as a straight woman, or even maybe a bisexual woman who has only dated men, then you might feel like maybe you aren’t doing things right. This is fine because there are definitely some usual differences between men and women and how they handle affection, want affection, and their overall brain chemistry. Learn about the 7 types of physical affection. Dating is dating but it can definitely be different when you’re with another woman for the first time. There can be some changes, good or bad, that you have to take notice of and adjust to in your relationship for it to work.
Getting Over the Stares
Men absolutely love to stare at lesbians, even in public. You might be unfamiliar but lesbians are highly objectified in straight male culture. Men are very keen for women to kiss and touch each other and will ogle at any chance they get. If you and your lady are affectionate in public then you will probably get quite a few male gazes and this can’t faze you. If you fought with every man that looked at you strangely then you would be fighting more than actually enjoying your relationship. Gay relationships also get a lot of looks because people are not yet accustomed to the idea of gay PDA.
Adjusting to Sex (or Thoughts of Sex)
Sex between women can be much different from sex between a man and a woman for seemingly obvious reasons. You now have two “Slot A”s in a relationship and no real “Tab B”. Foreplay between women is usually the same as straight foreplay but might include more non-vaginal stimulation because women understand that there are other parts of the body that can be stimulated sexually. Don’t be intimidated by different ways to make love and know where to look for information and actual lesbian sex tips. Porn geared towards straight men with lots of smashing together and fake fingernails will not be how your time goes.
A Different Level of Understanding
Women understand other women better because they have the same experiences as women. Another woman can understand your painful menstrual cramps more than a man can who might dismiss you as a wuss or being too sensitive. Women understand the feeling of being catcalled and ogled more than men do and you can share these things together. Women are chemically different than men and this means that women will better understand another woman’s chemical makeup, supposed cultural place, and thought process sometimes more than a man could ever even try.
Humans are Humans
All of this doesn’t mean that everything will drastically change in your dating life. People are people and this doesn’t change just because you’re dating someone of the same gender. You still have to be cautious of someone’s feelings and spend time together. Don’t let the fact that you’re dating someone who might better understand you make you too comfortable. You’re still two different people with two different lives who have to make a relationship work.