Nothing quite shakes a man’s confidence like having a terrible date. You had to work up the courage to ask her out, you had to pay for everything, and now you find yourself reeling from the worst night out you’ve had since someone else when home with your high school prom date. – 17 prom horror stories – When all else has failed and you don’t know what to do to cheer yourself up and/or move on with your life after this horrible experience, these tips will come to your rescue.
Take It Easy for a While
Before you start pushing yourself too hard you have to admit that bad dates suck. They suck out your confidence, and you’re going to need a couple of Friday nights to lick your wounds. Don’t let this part drag out too long, or you’re going to start to get afraid of ever going out there and asking a woman out again. Still, for a couple weekends just stick to being the wingman or the designated driver, spend a couple of evenings catching up on your favorite TV shows, and take a breather.
Focus on Her Flaws
Part of what helps you get over a terrible date is realizing that you dodged a bullet. There’s nothing that you could have done to fix this because you didn’t want to be with her anyway. Don’t worry. A critical eye and a little self-righteousness can turn even the most beautiful princess into an ugly witch in your eyes. Maybe she chewed with her mouth open just the tiniest bit, and maybe she snorted when she laughed, or she walked so slowly that you always had to pause so she could catch up. Focus on her flaws and you’ll stop missing her really quickly.
Make a New Online Profile
If you met her through a dating site, it’s time to start over. If you didn’t, then it’s time to start online dating for the first time. You need a fresh start. Take a couple of really great selfies (How to take a great selfie) in the bathroom mirror, blast your favorite music, and write your profile. Don’t make it too long or very short, but make sure that you keep things fresh. Then go out there and message 50 women. That’s right, message 50 women. By the time you press “Send” on the 50th message you’re going to realize that you don’t miss her at all.
Treat Yourself like a Product to Sell
Don’t put yourself down even after a bad date. If you were a salesman, you’d never say anything bad about a product that you were trying to sell. If one person didn’t like it you’d blow it off and still try to sell it to the next person to come along. That’s where you have to be with your self-confidence. If one woman doesn’t understand you, move on to the next. You’ve got a lot of great qualities that you could share with a special lady so keep trying to find her.
Laugh about the Date
You’re never going to heal until you learn to laugh. When you tell the story of your awful, terrible, horrible, no good, very bad date you should make sure that you do it will a smile on your face. Be dramatic. Be over the top. When you can make your friends and coworkers laugh like crazy over your bad date and you’ll start to feel like they’re not so bad. After all, nothing is truly terrible so long as you have something to laugh about when you’re done. Life is about acquiring stories to tell, and a date this terrible is going to go down in the history books.
Get Back on the Horse
Sooner or later you’re going to have to go on another date. It’s best to do it sooner rather than later, and you have to accept going in that you’re not going to be feeling 100% about this. You’re going to be struggling to get along with it the way that you think you should. It’s going to be rough to get back in that saddle and have a date after knowing that you can fail, but it’s going to be worth it in the long run.