It can make you feel terrible when your man isn’t paying enough attention to you. Often times, you will want to do things either to or for him so that he will stop what he’s doing and put his attention back on you. Unfortunately, sometimes doing this will make you look needy or controlling. Neither of these things are going to work to your favor. Instead of begging your man to pay attention to you, you should make him WANT to pay attention to you (see video instructions), by simply paying less attention to him.
Pay Less Attention to Him
When you notice he’s been paying less attention to you, one of the things you can do is give him a taste of his own medicine. Don’t whine or complain to him that you’re lonely or bored. This will only annoy him, and will probably lead to the two of you arguing. Instead, you should about your hobbies. Figure out things that you like to do, or things that you’ve been interested in and haven’t tried out yet. Focus your attention on those things. When you do, the fact that he isn’t paying much attention to you won’t be as obvious.
Eventually, he will notice that you aren’t paying as much attention to him either. He will then try to pull your focus away on what you’re doing, so that you will focus on him. Don’t allow him to do this. Give him attention on your time. If you stop what you’re doing to give him attention when he wants, he will start to believe that he has control over you. Make him realize what he’s doing by doing the same thing to him. The best part is that he will be a total hypocrite if he complains about it.
Show Him that Other People Value You
Another thing you can consider when your man isn’t paying enough attention to you is to show him that other people value you, and your attention. If you’ve slacked off on hanging out with friends, now would be the perfect time to pick it back up again. Join a group or a club, and make an effort to make it to the meetings. Make a tradition of having lunch with a former co-worker (Learn How to get out of lunch with co-workers Here) that you got along well with. When men see that there are other people out there who value you, and your time, they either become possessive, jealous, or envious. Each of these things should draw their focus back to you. But be careful if they’re going about it the wrong way. Sometimes men don’t always respond to jealously in ways that we’d hope.
Getting your man to put his attention back on you isn’t difficult. You simply need to make him come to the realization that you deserve his attention. Don’t nag him about paying attention to you. Usually it just backfires and causes arguments. Instead, make him realize how lonely he is when you’re not paying attention to him.